I was not aware of the power of my thoughts until I read 'The Secret' by Rhonda Byrne's a few years back. This book is based on the law of attraction; the power of our thoughts and how they can make or break our happiness. Our thoughts become actions and our actions have consequences that either bring us joy or misery. I remember reading this book and being so amazed at the insight within, but at the same time why did it take me reading a book to realize such a simple truth? Just think about it, if you are sitting there thinking that you are worthless, have no talents and have nothing to offer, then do you really think you are going to be confident and sincere at your job interview? Or on the other hand, if you are full of self-love and truly believe in yourself then it would only make sense that your strengths would shine during the interview. Our thoughts determine our paths in life, that is why it is so important to become aware of what is going on inside our heads. In other words if you are not happy right now then all you need to do is change your way of thinking and allow yourself to be happy. Only you (your negative thoughts) are standing in the way, move over and allow yourself to be happy.
I think this all goes back to self-love. If we lack the basic need for happiness, self-love, then we are doomed to negative thoughts and crappy outcomes. When we love ourselves we do not hurt ourselves with our thoughts, but when we are lacking self-love then it is really easy to be cruel to ourselves without even noticing it at first. We begin to notice things are not right when we are miserable or depressed and that is a scary place. When we hit rock bottom it is very difficult to pick ourselves back up. The longer we are depressed the more difficult it is to change our thoughts from negative to positive.
It all starts with our thoughts which lead to our actions and if they are self-loathing then they may very easily lead to addictions that we use to escape our lives because we feel so unworthy to be happy, or simply because we feel lost. Think of all the addictions in this world---shopping, eating, gambling, alcohol, smoking, drugs, sex, porn, working, exercise...the list goes on and on. When we truly love ourselves we find balance in healthy things, we do not do things in excess, which allows our minds to be clear and make it much easier to focus on positive thinking.
How do we change our negative thoughts to positive and self-loving thoughts? Yes, it can be very difficult, but in time it gets easier and in more time it becomes almost natural.
Steps to a positive and healthy mind:
a) Pay attention to your thoughts a few times a day and determine whether they are positive (loving) or negative (hating). This may be easy to do when meditating because although while meditating we are to clear our minds, it is very easy to have thoughts passing through and that is a great time assess whether they are healthy or harmful thoughts.
b) If they are negative thoughts then simply think the opposite. For example if you are thinking that you will not get to your goal of working out 3 times a week then stop that train of thought and think "I am working out a minimum of 3 times a week because it is my goal and I deserve to achieve it."
c) Say different positive affirmations daily. Positive affirmations are used to program our subconscious minds to allow us to manifest change in our lives. You can repeat positive affirmations while meditating or looking in the mirror.
If she can do it then the rest of us have no excuse... Jessica's Daily Affirmations
d) Be patient. Patience is key with success in reaching any goal. If you try your best and never give up then you will progress and be much more likely to succeed. Do not be upset when you have negative thoughts, that is the best time to strengthen your ability to change them and train your mind to be more positive.
e) Be GRATEFUL. When we are grateful for our blessings and focus on what we have rather than what we want then our minds are without effort much more positive.
Wishing you a day full of positive thoughts :)